Marriage agencies and brides in Odessa

Hotel guests often ask us about getting a bride in Odessa, and here are a few guidelines.

Be realistic, and don't imagine a beautiful girl will fall in love with you over the Internet. There is a huge cultural gap between Westerners and Ukrainians, and the girl must have a good reason to look for Western husband. Such reason is, naturally, money. Now, such reason is not inherently bad. Many Ukrainian women marry Westerners and live happily. The vast majority of marriage offers, however, is scam.

You have a better chance of finding a Ukrainian wife among the ladies of 30 years plus, especially single mothers. They are serious about marriage and have little incentive to scam the prospective husbands. Even among that group, honest marriage offers are rare.

Ukrainian girls 18-25 years old may marry because of financial issues or Western lifestyle opportunities, but most of them are unlikely to settle for a single partner. At that age, girls often value friends and nightclubs higher than family life. It is very unusual for a foreigner to find a decent Ukrainian wife 18-25 years old.

Visit a few nightclubs in Odessa. See how your girl scores with other good-looking girls around. If she looks too great, your chances of honest marriage are slim. If your girl is inferior to others, get yourself a new date.

Most marriage agencies receive the bulk of their income by milking the bridegrooms. The girl will keep asking you for small money (or big money, depending on her role model and your financial status). Most of the money will end up with the marriage agency. You should expect requests to finance the girl's English studies, apartment renovation, purchase of a computer, treatment of relative, and plastic surgery for her lovely dog. Ignore them, forget about the professional Ukrainian sweetheart, and look for another girl.

Marriage agencies in Odessa routinely employ professional writers to maintain correspondence on behalf of the girls. You can register a second account with the same agency and, pretending to be a different person, contact your sweetheart. Be imaginative about your alter ego details – don't make your trick obvious to the marriage agency. Likely, the girl will reply similarly to both of your accounts. Don't run away at that point: you, too, correspond with several girls at a time and should expect the girl to act likewise. But be skeptical about her love letters.

When meeting the girl in Odessa, retire to bathroom while leaving a digital recorder in your jacket at the table. The lady will likely call her friends during your absence or chat with the translator, giving you good clues on what she really thinks about you. Don't rend your clothes after listening to the recording.

It is indecent for a Ukrainian woman to invite a man to sleep in her home. Such an invitation raises a red flag. Also, few Ukrainian women live in the flat alone. Likely, she either rented an apartment for a few days to impress you or have a suspiciously high income, probably from her other male contenders.

Your marriage is a long-term high-risk investment. Don't be shy to investigate the lady. There are many female behavioral subtleties which rise immediate suspicion with locals but are transparent to foreigners. You're welcome to meet your girl with our hotel manager and receive his informed opinion.